State of Appreciation

We are told that Gratitude is the key to living a happy and abundant life. For creating and attracting more of what we want. I agree. But not entirely, and especially not to begin with. Trying to be 'grateful' often reminds us of something challenging or painful we've experienced and trying to overcome. If that reminder still holds an iota of negativity in your consciousness, it keeps you locked into resistance, actually shutting you off from receiving that which you do want.

I'm keen on being in a state of APPRECIATION to begin with. Appreciate that life has offered you some great challenges from which you can learn, grow and evolve; appreciate that you may not have the understanding and clarity right now, but you are open to receiving; appreciate the functions of every part of your body - both internal and external - even though you may not be in love with the reflection you see in the mirror right now, appreciate your eyes that see, your legs that carry you, your heart that beats. Your hands that touch and feel, your breasts that fed your babies. Appreciate that it's taken alot of courage for you to get to this point. Then, before you know it, that appreciation naturally becomes gratitude. It's a natural process of alchemy, or transformation, with ZERO trying or stressing to eventually feel it! Now things and situations you desire start flowing towards you as your resistance softens and dissolves and you start seeing the bigger picture. You move back into alignment, which is your most powerful point of magnetism, your drawing point to receive. Your energised self, happy self, confident self, starts resurfacing. Resistances crumble and you accept the inevitable 🤷‍♂️ You are actually a super-powered force 💥 taking the shape and form of your beautiful human body 💃🕺 created from the same energy that creates galaxies and universes! You have come here to experience EVERYTHING and NOTHING is impossible! Your body is designed to heal itself, and that's just one small miracle it's capable of. Now THAT'S something to APPRECIATE and be GRATEFUL for!! 💜😉🙏Namaste my friends! Let's play and create and enjoy this amazing life we've come here to LIVE!!! Have a beautiful, peaceful, introspective day!

OMChanti 💜

The End of an Era

I am not a religious person, I would rather consider myself Spiritual, but I do believe that the time we are currently living is the time of which The Book of Revelations speaks of in the Bible. The end of an Era. A time of reckoning. But I do not believe that some great spiritual leader is going to swoop some of us good ones up to the heavens and save us, whilst leaving the rest of the dodgier characters to fry in eternal flames and damnation! No. Quite the opposite actually.

This certainly is the time of reckoning, but it's our own inner reckoning. It's time to stand still and look within. Time to save us from ourselves. This earth carries the consciousness of every being that has ever existed on it. That means every feeling, thought and act that is carried out by each person is projected into the collective consciousness. If we look at what is currently happening around us, there is just mayhem and chaos and so much pain and suffering! Especially apparent now with CV flying around at the rate of knots! It's a sure sign of what we, as a collective, have been projecting.

It's time for us to SLOW DOWN and examine our actions. Examine what we put out there, then ask ourselves what does it add to... Positive or Negative? Are you deliberately (maybe ignorantly) creating joy or pain? Can only be one or the other. Some say that 90% of physical manifestation happens in the non-physical. I totally believe that. We create what we feel and think. It's so easy to judge and blame others at times like these when our fears our heightened. Although this is a GOOD thing, because it highlights the areas in your life that you need to give attention to! Heal your wounds. You know them because they don't FEEL good. Anything that does not FEEL GOOD needs to be balanced. We blame those around us for our own misgivings, yet don't realize the other is merely a mirror for your unhealed side that you choose to ignore. Now is the time to show compassion and empathy. Firstly and most importantly, towards yourself. To our fellow beings and earthly companions. Then look deep into the eyes of those you see fit to hurt or slay or kill before you do so. Be it human, beast, insect or nature. Can you truly say you don't feel? Can you truly say THEY don't feel? Examine those feelings and actions. They will lead you to magnificent places.

This earth has lost its balance and we are the stewards who are responsible for maintaining that. This is merely a sign that we have lost our inner balance as a whole. Find your alignment again to feel compassion, empathy, love, caring... seek and you will find the beauty in life, the things that make you smile. Live more consciousnessly, take more time to notice the things you've deemed worthless or useless. Raise your vibration by doing these things, and then you will SEE that, LIVE that and ATTRACT that good into your world too. When you do this, no CV, or any other creepy or nasty, can come close to touching you. You are flying too high for that stuff to reach you.

Let's take care of each other
Namaste to You all
OMChanti💜

Doing things differently

As I watch the emotional and mental state of many people right now, I am somewhat amused by the many who are telling the other many, what they should and should not be doing. So much fear and blame. When are we going to learn that we cannot tell others what to do? Social responsibility is what is being called for here, and yes, many people are up in arms about the actions of others and I see how ANGRY this makes them. We may agree that the other is being selfish, or ignorant, or whatever by not staying indoors when everyone says they should. But that ain't gonna change anything. The only thing that will immunise YOU to this virus, is how you actually Feel, Think and Act, ie: deal with your life, yourself. Yep. That's actually it. Believe it or not. No virus or dis-ease can grow in a healthy, balanced body with a strong immune system, if your mind is in a good place and your vibration is high. It's that easy. So rather than get caught up in yet another wave of fear or anger at another's actions, why not focus on and examine your own response? Fear will continue to spread this virus faster than the Australian fires, if we allow it. Keep your body in balance, your immune system strong and your vibration high. Be HAPPY to be spending time with family! Celebrate that! Play! Cook a healthy meal! Create! Write! Read! Meditate! Go for walks! Enjoy LIFE and LIVING and STOP GIVING MISERY AND FEAR SO MUCH POWER.

Welcome to the Age of Aquarius

Please friends, I do not need anymore invitations to "make money from home", especially now 🙏 You see, I've been making money from home since the age of 24, after being fired from every job I had for insubordination. Except for the last one. I resigned. That boss was cool. I concluded that I simply had to start doing my own thing, or else my poor child and I were gonna starve to death, and that would've been unfortunate. It's therefore been clear to me for a very long time that I do not fit the mold of anything, other than my own self. So the lives most of you are having forced upon you now, is the life I have chosen to live about 2 decades ago. Welcome to my world 😁 (although I must say I'm feeling a bit like y'all are encroaching on my space here!😉)

Anyway, WELCOME TO THE AGE OF AQUARIUS. Yes!! My time is finally here!🍾🥂 And I say "my time" because I am born a double-Aquarian and as any good Aquarian knows, it ain't always easy being a free-thinker and a self-decider in a world full of boxed in sheeple. But I love being kinda rebellious, so I can't say I didn't enjoy it all 😉 So, get used to this way of living my friends, because the Age of Aquarius is finally dawning, and this is the life we can expect to become more accustomed to.

UNITE in CONSCIOUSNESS

These are trying times indeed. As our lock-down extends indefinitely and uncertainty arises about our well-being, about our government and their dodgey desires, shit is getting real for many people. Cash flow is now becoming cash trickle, stress is setting in, and so are the shadowy aspects of our human nature. Many are angry, vicious with keyboard strokes, scared and vulnerable. Who do we trust? Who do we believe? Could these conspiracy theorists be right? Have we really been duped for so long and how could we all have been so dumb, if this be true? Where to from here?

For those of you who read my previous post on this time being rise of the Age of Aquarius, THIS IS IT. As any woman who has given birth knows, this is a pretty painful experience, especially if those labor pains seem to last forever! We are in a birthing process now, so of course there is fear, pain, uncertainty, anxiety and what seems to be a bloody mess! But then... Peace, Joy and Happiness soon follow and set in. Smiles and Laughter. There is a New Life. A New Beginning. New Hope. A beautiful opportunity for growth and change and a brilliant desire to grow into the best possible version of Itself. An opportunity to let go of the outdated and things we have no control over. What could be more exciting than that?

Liberation & Completion of Cycles

Liberation & Completion of Cycles. It's Time To Let Go 💜

Endings or 'death' of cycles such as moving home, relationships, jobs, feelings, etc. often evoke fear and discomfort within in us. However, significant and timely changes and endings, releasing the old to make way for the new, is really a great sense of liberation. What we really fear is the unknown, the 'what next?' of it all. We may be experiencing pain due to holding on to aspects of life that we have outgrown, but as humans we tend to hold on anyway because we don't KNOW what is next. We want guarantees, but instead we get open doors into unknown, dark places. Yet, when we step through these doors, closing them behind us, we discover a whole new world, one where we can develop and grow into more than we ever dreamed we have the potential of being.

There are basic phases we go through after any form of loss, i.e. shock/denial, anger/guilt, emotional storms, acceptance, the beginning of healing, and then... our deepend capacity to Love ❤️ Sometimes we can comfortably let go that which no longer serves us, to the next happily anticipated phase. These releases call us to celebrate. Letting go can be the patient acceptance of loss or the joyful celebration of liberation. When we liberate something in ourselves or in the world, we grow to be more adaptable to change and evolution. Power and Strength in the present come from releasing the past.

Giving inner peace
a chance

I have learned that being at Peace (or not) is always a choice. No matter where you're at in life, or what's happening, choosing peace is possible. Dramatic highs, catastrophic lows and emotional roller-coasters only intensify when you give them attention. Most people aren't addicted to substances, they're actually addicted to shitty emotions. Or shall I say, the drama attached to their unresolved emotions. Then often use substances to numb that. If drama is all you know, you'd better believe that you can certainly get attached, or rather, addicted to it.

But... remember, peace is always an option. If you can't focus on moving towards the road of least resistance in this moment, then rather just be still for a while, you don't have to move anywhere. Accept and embrace what you're feeling. No matter what it is. Just be at peace with feeling enraged, or jealous, or whatever. Knowing when to act and when to sit quietly, is an Art. It is a discipline of the Mind and Spirit. From this space, your peace arises and solutions are imminent.

We are perfectly placed stars

No-one owns anything, so don't try to hold onto something because nothing 'belongs' to you anyway, not even your children. We are simply the Guides for our children, to show them how to live a beautiful, healthy and abundant life on earth, and to open pathways for them to succeed through our example. We are the Keepers, Protectors, Gate-Keepers of Earth, of Animals, of the Sky, of Jewels, of Gems and most importantly, of EACH OTHER. We cannot own anything, despite what your mortgage documents tell you. We cannot buy love or friendship, because they can never be for sale.

There are golden threads, something like the rays of the sun, that connect us all in the essence of Love. These threads are more valuable than any asset you could ever 'own'. It may sound corny to some who've not understood its essence, but Love truly is the Fabric of the Universe. These rays of Love strengthen each time we open ourselves up to give and receive in a loving way, thereby strengthening the very fibres of our existence together. We are not separate and there really is no 'mine' and 'yours'.

Every star is perfectly placed, just as you are perfectly placed. You shine brighter than a million Stars and Suns, radiating with the Light of Love. You are created from Light and Love. KNOW THIS.

Be Light. Be Love. Be Cool. Be Kind. Have Fun! 👌

Namaste friends! Happy Sunday 💐

OMChanti 💜

Just breath

Stress is the worst kind of beast and is the cause of many-a-dis-ease that occurs in the body. Few can disagree with that. So, let's be wise and get inner-curious! Breeeaaathe and allow your breath to get back to Yourself. There is absolutely NOTHING airy-fairy about that. Your Breath is the one super-power you have that can change your world completely. Deep breathing allows for stillness of that crazy busy mind, and brings in a completely new perspective. It is this "new" perspective that holds the potential to change your life experiences completely. Nothing is permanent anyway and these challenging situations are simply a call for us to take a deeper look for a deeper meaning.Pain is not there to debilitate or crush you, but rather acts as a barometer that guides you to those deeper spaces within so that healing can occur authentically. So, rather than view pain or dis-ease as the enemy, breeaathe, and shift your perspective, or shall I say, allow your breath to shift your perspective!

You deserve The Best. You deserve to be treated with Kindness, Love & Respect, and you absolutely deserve to be treated as No.1! Nothing less. If you are being treated like an option within a pond of fish, then rather help them to streamline their choice and exit the equation gracefully.

You teach people how to treat you. Although you have no control over the actions of another, you certainly have control over how you choose to respond, and with whom you share your space. Setting healthy boundaries does not mean putting up rigid walls and disconnecting from the world. It means you UP your standards and you LEVEL-UP your own game. It means you lead by example and treat others in the way you wish to be treated. It means you understand this : "In order to get what I want, I need to become it first".

Have a beautiful day, lovely people!

OMChanti 💜

For most of my life, the 144,000 was someone else's number, that belonged to a particular kind of Christianity... the kind that uses it as a door that is almost certainly locked for you. The chosen. The sealed. The select few who make it through. It became, like so many things in religious language, a tool for division and exclusion dressed as prophecy.

I never felt it had anything to do with me.

Until the day I understood it as a map of the body.

What the Yogic Tradition Knew

The ancient Indian texts — thousands of years old, predating Christianity entirely — describe 72,000 nadis running through the human body.

Nadis are subtle channels. They are not veins or nerves, though they run alongside both. They are the pathways through which prana — life force, breath, energy — moves. The yogic and Ayurvedic traditions mapped them with extraordinary precision long before modern anatomy had language for what they were describing.

Of these 72,000 channels, two are primary.Ida — the left channel. Feminine. Lunar. Associated with the parasympathetic nervous system, with cooling, with inward movement, with the intuitive and receptive aspects of consciousness.

Pingala — the right channel. Masculine. Solar. Associated with the sympathetic nervous system, with activation, with outward movement, with analytical and directed awareness. These two spiral around the central channel called the Sushumna, like the two serpents of the caduceus. Like the double helix of DNA. Like the ancient symbol of the healer that we have carried forward without fully remembering what it originally described.

The Number That Changes Everything

72,000 nadis on the left. 72,000 nadis on the right.

When Ida and Pingala come into true balance, i.e. when the masculine and feminine within the body reach coherence, *_when neither dominates_*, when the push and the pull find their equilibrium... then the Sushumna opens.

The central channel activates.72,000 plus 72,000.144,000.This is not a prophecy about how many people get saved.It is a description of what a human body looks like when it is fully alive.

The Three-Sided Coin

Most spiritual frameworks offer you a binary. Light or dark. Good or evil. Saved or fallen. The yin and the yang endlessly cycling against each other, each trying to win, or to maintain this eternal balance...

But... the coin has three sides.

Left. Right. And the rim — the third thing that holds both without collapsing into either.
The 144,000 is the rim. It is what happens when you stop fighting your own duality and allow both channels to complete and not compete. No, Not transcendence either— I am not interested in leaving my body behind. I'm talking *_Integration_* . The body coming into coherence with itself at every level, simultaneously.

When this happens, the kundalini — the life force that has been lying dormant at the base of the spine — rises through the now-open central channel. She is *The dragon breath.* The silver that now emerges when black and white (duality) stop fighting and merge into something neither could be alone.

This is not floating away. *_This is coming fully home_.*

The Extremes — And What Lives Between Them
Think about the binary you know most intimately. The one you cycle through most often. From rage to collapse. From giving everything to giving nothing. From being completely open to completely closed. From love to fear. From control to chaos.

Most people spend their entire lives moving between the two poles of their particular coin. The energy moves, sometimes violently, sometimes slowly... but it stays inside the same system. This is *transmutation* . The appearance of change without the reality of it. Transmutation is exhausting. Because no matter how many times you cross from one side to the other, you always end up back at the familiar opposite. The pattern reproduces itself. The coin just keeps spinning.

But... *transformation* is different. Transformation is not crossing to the other side. It is finding the rim — the third position that is not a compromise between the extremes but a completely different relationship to the whole system!

From the rim, you are no longer being spun by the coin. You are riding it.

And the 144,000... the body in full coherence... is the living experience of riding the rim. Both channels present. Neither one dominant. The central channel open. The dragon breath moving freely through a body that has, finally, stopped fighting itself. This is important because the religious version of the 144,000 creates a spiritual hierarchy. A few are chosen. Most are not. Your job is to find out which group you belong to and orient your entire life around the answer.

The somatic version dissolves the hierarchy completely.

Every human body contains 144,000 points of potential coherence. Every single one. The question is not whether you were chosen. The question is whether the conditions for coherence have been met inside you... whether your nervous system has been regulated enough, your patterns completed enough, your channels cleared enough for the life force to move as it was designed to.

This is the work — the actual, embodied, patient, sometimes painful work — of becoming coherent. It is not instant and neither is it granted by belief.  Which is, in the end, what all of this has always been about. Not salvation from the outside.

Restoration from within.

Decode. Dismantle. Reorganise. Choose.

Chantelle Meyburgh
Human Patterning Decoder

DECODE: The Story We Inherited

The siren has a reputation. Yep. She sure does. She's reputed to be dangerous and seductive. The one who lures men to their destruction. The one who uses beauty as a weapon, desire as a trap, and leaves wreckage behind her.

Christianity inherited this archetype and gave it moral weight: the siren as a warning about the corrupting power of the feminine, the danger of female sexuality, the destruction that waits for any man foolish enough to follow his desire.

I'd like to offer a different perspective. Not to defend her or romanticise her path of destruction, but rather, ask an entirely different question:What happened to her first?

DECODE: Where the Siren Comes From

In the oldest versions of this myth, the siren is not born dangerous, but rather, she is made.

The daughters of women who were seduced, deceived, overpowered, used. Women who encountered something that promised them wisdom, significance, elevation... Yet, delivered something else entirely. Women who were never believed when they tried to speak about what had been done to them. Women whose pain was dismissed, whose experience was

rewritten, and whose daughters inherited both the wound and the blame. Sound familiar to you in any way?

The siren, for today, is not a predator. She is an unprocessed inheritance. She is what the feminine becomes when it has been harmed, dismissed, mythologised as dangerous, and left without words for what actually happened. She is anger that was never allowed to be grief. Power that was never allowed to be vulnerability. Seduction that was never allowed to be love.

DISMANTLE: The Original Narcissists

I want to go back further. Because I think this pattern has a root that most frameworks have never reached.

If we take the Genesis 6 account seriously - the Watchers, the fallen ones, the beings who descended and took human women - what we are describing, in contemporary language, is a predatory dynamic of incomprehensible power imbalance.

By all accounts, these were superior beings of extraordinary capability. Beautiful and compelling. Offering women things that were genuinely scarce in their world: knowledge, significance, connection to something vast and powerful. The promise of being chosen. Of smattering. Of making a difference.

That is the oldest seduction in the record. And it is also the clearest description of the narcissistic dynamic I have ever read.

The love-bombing. The promise of special access. The elevation that is really just the first stage of a much longer extraction. The woman who believed she was being chosen, discovering too late that she was being used.

How many of us have lived a version of that story?

Not necessarily with these fallen angels, but with men who moved like they did. Who had that same quality of magnetism and promise and made us feel, for a moment, like we were the most significant thing on the planet... and then... revealed that the significance was always in service of something else... :/

DISMANTLE: What Happened to the Women

Here is what I notice about the Genesis 6 narrative as most traditions tell it.

The fallen ones are named. Their actions are described. Their offspring are discussed at length.

The women are not named. Their experience is not described. What it cost them physically, psychologically, spiritually...  is not discussed at all. They disappear from the narrative at the point of use.

And then their daughters, the ones born from that union, carrying both human and something-other DNA, the ones who grew up in the aftermath of something their mothers could not name or process - those daughters became the sirens. The dangerous ones. The ones to be warned about. The harm was done to the mothers. The blame was assigned to the daughters.

This is a pattern I have sat across from in healing rooms for 30 years and I can't ignore saying something about it anymore.

DISMANTLE: The Siren as Mirror

Here is what I believe.

The siren is not a threat to be defended against. She is a mirror.

She reflects the unhealed feminine wound, the part of us, in every woman and in every man who carries feminine energy, that was seduced and abandoned, used and blamed, harmed and then made responsible for the harm.

She reflects the anger that was never allowed to grieve. The power that had nowhere legitimate to go so it just went upwards and downwards and sideways and in every direction that it could. The sexuality that was used against us and then called our fault.

As long as we see the siren as the problem - as the dangerous, seductive, destructive feminine - we do not have to look at what made her. We do not have to look at the original seduction. The original harm. The original dismissal.

We don't have to ask: what would she have been, if that had not happened to her mother?

The siren is not the wound. She is what the wound looks like when it has been left and ignored for long enough to develop its own power.

REORGANIZE: Taking Ownership of the Feminine Wound

I need to say this carefully, but know that I say it from inside my own experience.

How many of us have been seduced by someone who promised us something real, and delivered something hollow? How many of us have felt the particular devastation of realising we were a chapter in someone else's story rather than the story itself? How many of us, in the aftermath of that, became something harder? Something with sharper edges? Something that protected itself by controlling the dynamic before someone else could?

That is the siren pattern activating. Not because we are dangerous by nature. Because we were hurt and were never given the opportunity to speak, heal and to be believed.

Here's an he invitation. I know, it's not a small one, but it is to take ownership of that. Not the original harm. That was not your fault and it was not your mother's fault and it was not her mother's fault.

But the pattern that formed in response to the harm ... the hardness, the withholding, the seduction-as-defence, the power-as-protection ... that is ours to decode. Because as long as we carry it unexamined, we will keep cycling through the same dynamic, i.e. attracting the familiar wound. Confirming the familiar story. Passing the unprocessed inheritance to the next generation.

REORGANIZE: Rehabilitating Her

The siren does not need our condemnation. She has had enough of that. She needs what her mother never got, and what her mother's mother never got.

To be believed. To have the original harm named. To have someone sit across from her and say: what was done was real, it was wrong, and you are not what they made you carry.

The feminine wound, in women, in men, in every body that has ever been seduced and abandoned and blamed, is not healed by being called a monster. It is not healed by being warned against.

It is healed by the same thing that heals every wound.

Honest witnessing and accurate naming... And then, the slow, patient discovery that the original you... the one before the harm, before the hardness, before the armour... is still in there.

CHOOSE: What Comes Next

She was never the monster, but rather, she was the one who did not survive the monster intact. That's a vast difference, and an important one.

The difference is lived experience and not some intellectual concept. It is the difference between carrying a story that says "I am dangerous" and carrying a story that says "I was damaged by something dangerous, and I am still here".

Rest assured, that re-storying is not a one-time decision. It is a consistent practice. It is the work of noticing, in real time, in your actual body,  when the siren pattern activates. When the hardness comes up. When the seduction-as-defence kicks in. When the power turns to protection instead of presence.

And in that noticing, there is a choice. Not necessarily a dramatic choice, but a small one. The choice to pause... To breathe... To ask: is this pattern serving me now, or is it just serving the old story?

That pause is where the reorganization begins. That pause is where the original you.. the one before the harm... gets a word in.

She is still in there. She has been waiting a long time.

She does not need you to be perfect. She does not need you to have it all figured out. She just needs you to stop running the old pattern long enough to hear her.

That is the work. And it is slow. And it is worth it.

Decode. Dismantle. Reorganise. Choose.Chantelle MeyburghHuman Patterning Decoder

DECODE: The Fantasy We Were Sold

How many times in life have we been told that the goal is to find our other half? Or the missing piece, or the one who completes us, balances us, makes us whole…?

The feminine wound says: find the man who will see you, choose you, stay. The masculine wound says: find the woman who will need you, admire you, never leave. Both are hungry, reaching for something outside themselves, trying to resolve an internal starvation through external acquisition.

And so, we call this love. We call it a relationship, or partnership. We build entire industries around it, such as dating apps, compatibility tests, conscious coupling retreats, or whatever, all promise that if we just find the right person, the wound will finally close, and we will be happy.

But the wound does not close through external acquisition. It closes through being your own internal witness. This is not something another person can do for you; it is something you learn to do with yourself. Only then can two “witnessed people” meet without using each other as anaesthetic, or punching bags, verbally or physically.So, let’s talk about “The Rim”

DECODE: What the Rim Actually Is

In the yin-yang symbol, the boundary between the two forces is not a straight line. It curves, it breathes, it moves. And at the outer edge of the circle, not in the centre, not in either half - there is a rim. The third position.

Not the midpoint between masculine and feminine. That is just a less dramatic version of the same binary. The rim is a different plane entirely. It is the position from which you can see both faces without being owned by either. Where you hold both truths:  I am capable of need, AND I am capable of presence; I have been starved, AND I have been fed - without being driven by either one.

That holding is TRANSFORMATION. That is the rim.

Let’s be clear,  the rim is not a relationship technique or something two people do together. It is a state of being that one person reaches first. Then, if two people have reached it independently, they can meet there. The rim is not where you find your ‘other half’. It is where two whole coins touch at their edges.

DISMANTLE: The Wound Dressed as Wisdom

Most of what we call a conscious relationship is just the old wound masquerading in a different outfit.

Manifest your soulmate. Align with your twin flame. Call in the masculine who can hold your feminine. These are the siren and the starving man, still reaching, still hungry, still trying to get the other person to close a gap that only internal work can close.

The feminine wound in spiritual drag still needs to be chosen. The masculine wound in empowerment drag still needs to be needed. They have read the books. They have done the workshops. They speak the language of sovereignty while still outsourcing their significance to the person across the table.

This is not the rim. This is the same coin, spinning faster, calling it evolution.

The rim requires something harder. It requires that you have already sat with your own siren. That you have already faced your own starvation. That you have done the decode and the dismantle on your own pattern… not theoretically, or in a weekend intensive, but in the slow, daily practice of noticing when the old hunger kicks in and choosing the pause instead.

The rim is only available to people who no longer need the other person to be their medicine. It’s something that can never be faked, because it’s an inner coherence you remember, and THAT is your balance.

DISMANTLE: What Replaces the Hunger

If the old pattern is two wounded people reaching for each other to fill a gap, what happens when the gap is no longer there? What replaces the hunger?

Something very different… Presence. Curiosity. The capacity to witness without needing to fix or be fixed. The ability to be with another person's darkness without being pulled into your own. The ability to be with your own darkness without making them responsible for it.

Desire becomes choice. Not compulsion. Not the desperate reach for someone who can simulate the feeling you cannot generate yourself. But the genuine, unhurried choice to be near this person today, because being near them adds something to your life that you do not need to survive.

Intimacy becomes transparency. Not extraction or demanding another person's attention for evidence of your own worth. But rather, the willingness to be seen, fully, because you have already seen yourself.

The rim is where two people can say: I do not need you to complete me. I choose you because I am already complete. And in that choice, there is more freedom than in any dependency ever promised.

DISMANTLE: The Rim Is Not Safe

Let’s be real. The rim is not comfortable. It is not a destination you arrive at and then relax. It is a living edge.

On the rim, there is no script. No role. No familiar pattern to fall back on when things get hard. You cannot default to “seduction-as-defence”. You cannot default to performance-as-protection. You have to meet the moment as it is, with whatever you actually have, and trust that it is enough.

That trust is earned. It is earned in the years of doing your own work. In the slow, patient discovery that the original you… before the wound, before the training… is not only still in there, but is capable of more than the pattern ever allowed.

The rim is where two people who have done that work can stand together without collapsing into each other. They hold hands and can touch without merging. They can separate without abandoning. They can argue without the argument becoming evidence of the old wound.

This is not “safe”. It is real. And real is what the pattern was always trying to avoid.

REORGANIZE: What the Healed Masculine Brings

The healed masculine is not the alpha… or the provider or the protector, the leader, the one who must perform strength in order to be worthy of love.

The healed masculine is the man who has faced his own starvation and learned to generate his own significance. He does not need the feminine to validate him. He does not need to be needed to feel real. His presence is not conditional on his utility.

What he brings to the rim is stillness. Not the rigid stillness of suppression, but the alive stillness of a man who knows his own interior and can hold space without filling it… he can be with another person's intensity without being overwhelmed or needing to control it.

He does not rescue. He witnesses. He does not fix. He accompanies. He does not need to be the hero of the story because he has already become the hero of his own.

And in that, he becomes trustworthy. Not because he is strong. Because he is HONEST.

REORGANIZE: What the Healed Feminine Brings

The healed feminine is not the seductress. Neither is she the nurturer. She is not the one who must be chosen, seen, and adored to feel real.

The healed feminine is the woman who has faced her own wound and learned to generate her own presence. She does not need the masculine to complete her, or be “chosen” to be significant. Her openness is not conditional on being “safe”.

What she brings to the rim is receptivity. Not the passive receptivity of waiting, but the active receptivity of a woman who knows her own YES and her own NO; who can receive without being emptied and give without being extracted from. She can be vulnerable without being helpless.

She does not need to manipulate. She communicates. She does not withhold to control, she holds to protect what is hers. She does not need to be the prize of the story because she has already become the author of her own.

And in that, she becomes trustworthy. Not because she is ‘beautiful’. Because she is TRUE.

REORGANIZE: What Happens at the Rim

When two people who have done this work meet, something different becomes possible.

Not perfection or ease, and definitely not the absence of conflict, but the absence of the old pattern underneath the conflict. They can disagree without the disagreement becoming a referendum on their worth. They can easily separate for a day or a few,  without the separation becoming abandonment. They can desire each other without the desire becoming hunger.

The rim is where polarity becomes play instead of a trap. Where the masculine can lead without dominating, and the feminine can follow without submitting. Where both can switch, fluidly, because neither is trapped in a role they need to maintain to survive.

The rim is where sex becomes communion instead of transaction… where touch is not the filling of a gap but the celebration of a connection... where two people can be naked, physically, emotionally, spiritually… without either being exposed or exploiting.

Gentle reminder: this is not a technique or a method. This is what becomes possible when two people have done the work of becoming REAL.

CHOOSE: What Comes Next

The rim is not a place you find. It is a place you become.

You do not get there by finding the right partner. You get there by doing the work on your own pattern: the siren pattern, the starvation pattern, the reaching, the performing, the hiding, the controlling… until the pause becomes more natural than the reaction.

That work is slow and very often, completely unglamorous. It sure as hell does not photograph well! It is the daily practice of noticing when the old hunger kicks in and choosing something else. It’s the daily practice of asking: Is this desire or is this compulsion? Is this presence or is this performance? Is this love or is this the wound, still running?

And then, if you meet someone who has done the same work, you will recognise each other. Not by the absence of wound, because the wound is still there, it is just no longer driving. But you recognise the quality of the pause... the honesty in the eyes… the fact that neither of you needs the other to be anything other than what they are.

That meeting is rare, and I don't believe that it’s guaranteed. It’s not a ‘reward for good behaviour’... but it’s what becomes possible when two people have stopped using each other as medicine and started using their own lives as the practice.

The rim is not safe. But it is real. And real is what the pattern was always trying to avoid.

She is still in there. He is still in there. And when they meet at the rim, they meet as themselves.

That is the work. And it is slow. And it is worth it.

Decode. Dismantle. Reorganise. Choose.

Ready to decode your patterns and choose differently?

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Chantelle MeyburghHuman Patterning Decoder

DECODE: The Story He Inherited

The siren has a reputation. But so does the man who walks toward her. He's apparently foolish... weak... led by his lust, his ego, his inability to control himself. The one who should have known better. The one who deserves what he gets because he followed desire instead of discipline.

Christianity inherited this archetype too; the man as the rational agent, the one who must resist, who must lead, who must never be swayed by the feminine. And if he falls, it is his fault. He was the one with the power. He was the one who chose.

I would like to offer a different perspective. A different question entirely, as I did last week.What happened to him first?

DECODE: Where He Actually Comes From

The man who walks toward the siren is not born foolish. Again, he is made.The son of fathers who were silent, absent, or enacting a version of societal strength that had no space for tenderness. Boys who were taught that their worth was in what they could produce, protect, or conquer and kill. Boys who learned that love was conditional, on how they performaned, on their grades, on muscles, or the ability to not cry, to not need, to not feel too much.

These men are predators. He is an unprocessed inheritance too. He is what the masculine becomes when it has been starved of its own emotional knowing, trained out of its own interior life, and left with only two approved channels: achievement and desire.

He is tenderness that was never allowed to be tenderness. Vulnerability that was never allowed to be vulnerability. Need that was never allowed to be need.

DISMANTLE: The Original Starvation

Let's go back again, because I think this pattern also has a root that most frameworks do not reach.

Again, let's look at the Genesis 6 account seriously - the Watchers, the fallen ones, the beings who descended - what we are describing is not only a predatory dynamic, but also a seductive promise made to the masculine: that power, significance, and special access could be obtained through domination rather than through presence.

The Watcher narrative is usually read as the corruption of the feminine. Again, I will sprinkle some of my own spice on this idea and will loudly proclaim that there is a masculine corruption in it too. The promise that a man could be more than human by taking what was not his to take, and that his emptiness could be filled by extraction rather than by relationship, or that his hunger for significance could be satisfied by control.

That is the oldest trap in the record and also the clearest description of the masculine wound I've explored.

The little boy who was never shown how to generate his own worth became the man who learned to read female attention as the only reliable metric of his value. The same one who was never taught how to hold his own darkness without either collapsing into it or dominating someone else with it.

How many of us have lived a version of that story?

Not necessarily with fallen angels, but with fathers who behaved like the fallen, with the same quality of silent absence or rigid performance. They could make  us feel, for a moment, like we were significant only when we were useful, and then ended up that the significance was always in service of something else. You were an object to be valued for your performance, and a means for others to get ahead.

DISMANTLE: What Happened to the Boys

Here is what I notice about the masculine narrative in most traditions.

The man is the agent, who must resist, lead, provide, protect. His actions are described. His failures are judged. His strength is measured.

But... his interior life is not acknowledged. His loneliness is not described. What it cost him, to be trained out of need, out of tenderness, out of the capacity to simply be with another person without a mask, is not discussed at all. He disappears from the narrative at the point of utility.

And then the men who grew up in that training  who learned that their worth was in what they could do, achieve, or conquer. Those men became the ones who walk toward the siren. The foolish ones. The weak ones. The ones to be warned about.

The boy's needs were starved and often weaponized, and then the blame assigned to the man. This is a pattern I have seen with my clients for more than 3 decades now...

DISMANTLE: The Man as Mirror

Here is what I believe.

The man who walks toward the siren is not a predator. He is a mirror.

He reflects the unhealed masculine wound, the part of us, in every man and in every woman who carries masculine energy, that was starved of presence and trained into performaning a role that was never truly you, that was taught to outsource its own significance, that was harmed and then made responsible for the harm.

He reflects the tenderness that was never allowed to be tenderness and the need that had nowhere legitimate to go except flying in every other direction! The hunger for connection that was used against him and then called his fault.

As long as we see the man as the problem, i.e. A foolish, weak, lust-driven dimwit, we do not have to look at what made him or the original essence of which he was starved. The original caged up training. The dismissal. We then avoid the question we should be asking: what would he have been, if that had not happened to him as a boy?

The man is not the wound. He is what the wound looks like when it has been left ignored and avoided for long enough to develop its own hunger.

REORGANIZE: Taking Ownership of the Masculine Wound

Let me be careful here again. How many of us have reached for someone who promised us that dream,  significance, connection, the feeling of being chosen...  and discovered too late that we were being used as a chapter in someone else's story? How many of us have felt the particular devastation of realising our hunger was being fed by someone who needed us hungry? How many of us, in the aftermath of that, became something harder? Something more defended? Something that protected itself by controlling the dynamic before someone else could?

In the same way as the feminine (two sides of the same coin, remember? this is the masculine pattern activating. Not because men are predators by nature, but  Because we were starved and that was never acknowledged.

The invitation here is to take ownership of that. I don't mean the original training or programming. That was never your fault, neither your father's fault and it was not his father's fault. But the pattern that formed in response to this starvation and reaching and performing and perfection and the hunger-for-significance that drives us toward anyone who can simulate it... That will always remain ours to decode. Because as long as we carry it unexamined, we will keep playing out  the same dynamic.

Attracting the familiar wound. Confirming the familiar story. Passing the unprocessed inheritance to the next generation.

REORGANIZE: Rehabilitating Him

Men do not need our condemnation. They've had enough of that.

He needs what his father never got. What his father's father never got, and that is to be seen and to have the original starvation acknowledged and named. To have someone sit across from him and say: what was done was real, it was wrong, and you are not what they made you carry.

The masculine wound in men, in women, in every body that has ever been starved of presence and groomed into performance, is not healed by being named a predator or by being told to try harder. It is healed by the same thing that heals every wound. Honest witnessing. Accurate naming. And the slow, patient discovery that the original you... the one before the grooming and training, before the hardness and the armour... is still in there.

CHOOSE: What Comes Next

He was never the predator. He was the one who did not survive the starvation intact. There is a massive difference which goes beyond intellect. It's lived experience. It is the difference between carrying a story that says I am weak for needing and carrying a story that says I was starved of something essential, and I am still here.

That re-storying is not a one-time decision, it's a consistent practice. It is the work of noticing, in real time, in your actual body, when the masculine pattern activates. When the reaching comes up. When the performance kicks in. When the hunger for significance turns to extraction instead of presence.

And in that noticing, there is a choice. Nothing a dramatic. A small one. The choice to pause. To breathe. To ask: is this pattern serving me now, or is it just serving the old story?

That pause is where the reorganization begins. That pause is where the original you, the one before the grooming, gets a word in.

He's still in there and has been waiting a long time. No need you to be perfect or to have it all figured out. He just needs you to stop running the old pattern long enough to hear him.

That is the work. And it is slow. And it is worth it.

Decode. Dismantle. Reorganise. Choose.

Chantelle Meyburgh

Human Patterning Decoder

There is a symbol that has been dismissed, warned against, and branded as demonic by people who have almost certainly never understood a word of Taoist philosophy.

I work with a lot of Christians on my platform; some of the most sincere, searching, genuine people I have ever met come from that tradition. And I have watched this pattern play out over and over again and again.

One of the patterns I regularly encounter, and I say this as an observation, not an attack, is the reflexive claiming of ancient symbols as either Christian or demonic. If it predates the church, it gets assigned to one category or the other. Usually the second.

The yin yang symbol is one of the most frequent casualties of this pattern. I have watched it being dismissed, warned against, and branded as a tool of darkness by people who have almost certainly never understood or read a word of Taoist philosophy.

So I’ll explain where it actually comes from and what I believe it actually means. And then I’ll ask the harder question about divination, astrology, the knowledge that was labelled forbidden, who decided that, and why.

Where It Actually Comes From

The yin yang symbol is Taoist. Not Buddhist, although Buddhism later beautifully integrated its principles. It’s neither Christian nor Western. It’s Taoist. i.e. ancient Chinese. And it’s thousands of years older than Christianity.

The earliest Chinese characters for yin and yang appear in oracle bone inscriptions from ancient Chinese divination practices, dating to at least the 14th century BCE. These were not abstract spiritual concepts. They were observations of nature. Sunlight and shadow. The warm face of a mountain and the cold. Day and night. The breath in and the breath out.

The concepts appear in Chinese texts as early as the Western Zhou dynasty, around 1000 BCE, notably in the I Ching, the Book of Changes. The philosophy was most fully developed within Taoism, particularly in the Tao Te Ching, attributed to Laozi and written in the 4th century BCE.

The circular symbol itself, the taijitu, the swirling black and white, came later, during the Song Dynasty around 960–1279 CE, most notably through the work of Taoist philosopher Zhou Dunyi. He wanted a visual map of the cosmos… how the ultimate void gives birth to duality, and how duality gives birth to all things.

It represents approximately three thousand years of accumulated philosophical observation.

It does not belong to Christianity; it predates Christianity and doesn’t ask for anyone's approval.

What Taoism Understood

In Taoist metaphysics, distinctions between good and bad - along with other moral judgments - are perceptual, not absolute. The duality of yin and yang is understood as an indivisible whole.

Read that carefully.

The Taoists were not saying that harm doesn't happen, or that darkness doesn't exist. They were saying that the division of reality into good and evil as opposing cosmic forces - one to be defeated, one to be chosen - is a perceptual error. It is the map mistaken for the territory.Yin and yang are not enemies. They create each other. They require each other. You cannot know warmth without having sat in the cold. You cannot understand light without having moved through dark. These forces are not at war. They are the engine of existence itself.

What the Symbol Actually Shows

The circle. Divided by a flowing line — not a straight one. Because the boundary between yin and yang is never rigid. It breathes, curves, and it moves.

In the white section: a small black dot.

In the black section: a small white dot.

Most people read this as balance - as if the two sides are being polite to each other, each contributing their share. But I read it differently.

When you are in your light - fully present, open, warm, sovereign - the dot is a reminder: you can be pulled into your dark in a heartbeat. Not to punish you, but as reality. The trigger, the old wound, the familiar pattern… it lives inside the brightness, not outside it. Waiting. Not to destroy you, but to keep you honest.

And when you are in your dark - lost, contracted, unable to see the way forward - the dot is the thing that saves you. Your light is already inside it. It did not leave. It is in there, small and certain, guiding you through from within.

And please remember, this balance is not a destination. This is balance as a living, dynamic, daily practice.

The Extremes - And the Third Position

I keep coming back here when I work with people inside the binary of their own suffering.

We oscillate... from anger to peace… control to collapse… giving everything to giving nothing. From love to resentment… trust to suspicion…. I think you’re getting the picture now.  We move between the extremes of our personal coin and call it living. Sometimes we call it healing, because we have crossed to the better side today.

BUT…  this is transmutation, not transformation. The energy moves. The coin keeps spinning. The same two faces keep appearing in rotation, and we keep being surprised.

The coin has a third side.

Not the midpoint between the extremes. That is just a less dramatic version of the same binary. The rim is a different plane entirely. It is the position from which you can see both faces without being owned by either. Where you hold both truths, i.e. I am capable of rage AND I am capable of peace; I have been hurt AND I have hurt - without being driven by either one.

That holding is transformation. That is the rim.

And the yin yang, read properly — the dot in the dark, the dot in the light, the line that never stops moving — has been mapping it for three thousand years.

On Divination - What Was Actually Forbidden, and Why

Here I will be careful. Because this is where I get challenged most often, and where I think the most honest conversation needs to happen.

Divination is labelled evil by many Christian traditions. And I can understand the concern - not the blanket condemnation, but the underlying one. Personal divination as a dependency - using cards, astrology, readings to make every decision, to outsource your discernment to an external system… that is a real problem. Not because the tools are evil but rather because dependency is. Any dependency that replaces your own direct knowing is a problem, whether it is a religion, a tarot deck, or a therapist, or a pastor.

But the way the ancient Chinese used divination - the I Ching, the reading of natural patterns, the observation of celestial movements and seasonal rhythms - that is something else entirely. That is a people learning to listen to a larger intelligence than their own ego. To read the world the way a body reads its own signals. Not to predict and control. To orient. To understand where you are in the larger pattern so you can move with it rather than against it.

That, I believe, is how divination was intended. As earth literacy. As the human capacity to read the living systems we were placed inside.

The Mazzaroth - God's Own Map

The word Mazzaroth appears in the Book of Job. God speaks it from a whirlwind, asking Job: Can you bring forth the Mazzaroth in its season?

The Mazzaroth is the Hebrew word for what we now call the zodiac. The twelve constellations that circle the earth. God's own reference to the celestial wheel - presented not as forbidden knowledge but as evidence of divine architecture. A map written in stars before any human religion existed.

The question God asks is not a condemnation of astrology. It is a question about scale. Can you comprehend what you are standing in the middle of? Do you understand the pattern you were born into?

I believe astrology, used rightly, is exactly that - the birth chart as soul blueprint. Not a prediction of your fate. Not a daily horoscope to check before you make decisions. A map of your original design. Your wiring. Your tensions and gifts and the particular way your soul arrived into this particular life at this particular moment.

Using it to understand yourself - that is healthy. Using it to abdicate responsibility for your choices - that is the dependency problem again. The tool is not the issue. The relationship to the tool is. And it all boils down to intention.

What Was Actually Labelled Forbidden — And the Question Worth Asking

The Book of Enoch - not part of the standard Biblical canon but widely read in early Christianity - lists specific knowledge attributed to the Watchers, the fallen angels. The knowledge they allegedly brought to humanity includes: astrology, herbalism, enchantments, metalworking, cosmetics, the reading of signs.

Let’s look at that list for a tiny minute.

Almost all of it is earth knowledge. Knowledge of natural systems. The ability to read the sky, to work with plants, to understand materials, to observe patterns in the world.

I am not saying the Watchers were benevolent, but I’m actually asking a different question entirely: why would earth knowledge be forbidden? Why would the capacity to read natural systems, to understand celestial patterns, to work with the body's own intelligence… why would that be the thing an adversarial force needed to introduce?

Unless…  it wasn't introduced as something new…?  Unless it was already ours. Already built into our living architectural design. And labelling it as fallen knowledge was the most effective way to separate a people from their own direct access to Creation.

People who cannot read the earth, who cannot read the sky, who cannot trust their own body's signals or interpret their own dreams, who need an institutional intermediary for every encounter with the sacred. Now those are people who are very, very easy to manage.

The Symbol Does Not Need Our Verdict

This is not about anyone abandoning their faith; I am asking for honesty about what is actually ancient and what was constructed, what was original and what was overlaid, what is universal human knowing and what is territorial claim dressed as theology.

The yin yang symbol carried the truth of duality for three thousand years before Christianity arrived to declare it unsafe.

The Mazzaroth was written in the sky before any religion existed to interpret it.

The nadis were mapped in the body before the church decided the body was suspect.

The earth grid was walked by people who knew how to read it before their sacred sites were built over with different names.

None of these things is evil. They are ancient. They are human. I believe they are the original literacy. The capacity to read the world we were placed inside, with the instruments we were given to read it.

The symbol does not need our approval or our condemnation.

It just needs us to look at it properly.

Decode. Dismantle. Reorganise. Choose.

Chantelle Meyburgh
Human Patterning Decoder

Ready to decode your patterns and choose differently?

Need some help?

Contact Chanti  @ chantellemeyburgh@gmail.com